Category Archives: Positivity bias

Week 18 – Gratitude means happiness

Have you ever heard the saying “The longer the journey, the clearer to destination”? Sure you did! And while I recently started to rework my DMP again, I am getting clearer and clearer on the destination that I want to reach in my world within. The destination that will allow me to realize effortlessly all things I am thriving for in my world without.

There are two things that are central to my life: happiness and love. I deeply believe that this is what I truly am in my deepest core – and I am getting closer and closer to letting these feelings shine through me everyday.

What amazes me, is how much I am changing – and how quick things are developing.

There are moments in my life, where I am suddenly feeling a very deep love or a very deep joy and happiness. Sometimes this might even happen from one moment to the other. For instance last Wednesday. I was sitting in a plane. Travelling back home from a week in the United States, letting my thoughts run. Suddenly I felt it. A deep warmth inside myself.  Originating somehwere between my heart and my stomach, and steadily getting bigger until pulsating through my entire body. A feeling of love of life itself and a deep gratitude. And I only then realized the tears streaming down my face, truly moved by my journey and my life.

Or last Saturday. I woke up with a feeling of true happiness within me. This was amazing as I did not have such a feeling so early in the morning for a long time. The sun was shining and I was just feeling great! It was comparable to a young child getting up on christmas day or ones birthday. A mixture of happiness, and deep gratitude – and openness for life itself. Then I also truely realized how closely gratitude and happiness are linked and understood: the more grateful I am, the happier I become.

The greatest thing — I know why this is happening, and how I can get even more of it! It is the result of the MKMMA happiness progression we have been on since a couple of weeks.

I love it and for sure will give even more!

 

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Week 15 – Knowledge does not apply itself

Guys, this week it struck me — right in the MasterKeys part 15, 36 it says:

“Let the thought dwell on the fact, that knowledge does not apply itself. That our actions are not governed by knowledge but by custom, precent and habit!”

Wow, what a thought! Knowledge and education has always been very important for me. I always considered myself knowledgable. I know a lot of answers to a lot of useful and perhaps also rather unuseful questions, I spend 20+ years in the education system. However, the focus of my education has always been on gaining KNOWLEDGE, being able to answer questions, finding the right solutions. But I never understood sooo deeply that KNOWLEDGE WITHOUT APPLICATION IS NOTHING!
I dont know about you, but to me, this really is big. Why? Let me give you an example. Previously, for me it was all about knowing the answer to a challenge. Numbers always fascinated me, I liked looking at equations, thinking about real world problems, and understanding how to solve them. The funny thing — the more advanced I became in my skills, the less I really cared about the actual solution, but finding the right approach on how to solve them. Finding the right approach always excited me, with the approach discovered, solving the equations I almost considered too trivial.In other words, my education has drilled me to KNOW, to understood but not to DO.But it is not my knowledge that guides my actions, but it is my customs and habits!So what does this really mean?

  1. I already KNOW which actions I need to take to get where I want to go
  2. the lacking application of my knowledge currently hold me back — as it is the key component to getting where I want to go in life (might sound pretty straight forward, but really think about it — do you really apply all your knowledge?)
  3. Reaching the destination in a journey requires many steps. Likewise is success the result of the actions I take and not the knowledge I have accumulated.
  4. Making this my new HABIT will propel me to my goals — and with the MKMMA I have all the tools to do it.

And of course applying this insight, is the first step to change!

Wow….

Week 14 – Lets get positive!

The week between Christmas and New Year for me is always a week to calm down, to decompress, to relax. Typically this is a week where I am off work and really can take some time to reflect. I have shared with you last week, that my focus is on getting more positive with my self.

Well, this week has been both a challenge and a success in this matter.

A challenge because I had more time for myself, I automatically expected to do more for me. (Of course if you can fit in all the MKMMA activities next to a fulltime job, you should be able to easily fit it in during your holidays – and of course even more of it, right?!)Well turns out that more time is not necessarily more time. It is all about having a plan, that makes less time, more time — and more time even more time, if that makes sense!

Interestingly, even if I know this and wanted to do the planning for me for this week. Somehow I didn’t — and even though initially I was really unhappy with myself, at a certain point I realized, that having no plans during this time, was important for me. Important to unwind, to let go and to calm down.  I understood, that there is something bigger than myself. And I also understood,  that it is not about checking all the boxes all the time, but how you feel about checking them. This for me is easier said than done, but I stick to the process. Reading the achievement cards, looking at the mental diet pill and perhaps sometimes also allowing myself to be negative — but for a definite period of time

So what did I learn through this experiences?

  1. It is all about being in harmony — with others and myself.
  2. It is important to let go and trust something bigger has your back
  3. It is not about ticking all the boxes all the time, but about how you feel when you tick them.
  4. Success requires a written plan of action.
  5. More time is is in the planning.

Pretty big week, right?

Week 13 – That’s it, I am done!

Have you ever thought about why you are still at that spot in your life, which you wanted to have left behind already long time ago? Why you are still stuck in that city, in that job, in that relationship, in that environment?

I dont know what this spot is for you but I had a major aha moment this week. And perhaps this might help you too. I always considered myself a very positive person. Very open and supportive for others, and always seeing the good in others.

Now I realized that this is only half the truth.

The other half: I am very hard on my own. This really is amazing, the longer I think about it, the more I realize, the deeper truth and how much this did hold me back. The good thing, and I know exactly where this is coming from — the red pencil syndrom. I spend quite some time in the education system — 4 years of primary school, 9 years of secondary school, 5 years of university as a student and another 4 years as a research assistant. That is over 20 years being trained to look for what is wrong and pointing out the mistakes, instead of looking for and appreciating waht is right.

But guess what — I am done with it!

I am now developing a positivity bias! How? There are three simple steps to developing my own positivity bias.

1. Achievement cards — This is simple but very effective. Every week I write out 50 cards with my own achievements and things I did correctly. Either in that particular week, the last year or anytime in my life. Every day I mix three additional gratitude cards in and sift through all the cards at least once a day reading them out loud with gusto. Of course the more I read the more excited I become and the more successes come to my mind. So I am picking up momentum.

2. Mental Diet Pill — When I am thinking any negative thought I stop entertaining this thought directly. Of course this sometimes can be challenge and here a mental diet pill comes in handy — that is simply a picture from one of my smart goals that I keep in my pocket for easy access.

3. Bear hugs kettle — if all this does not help, there is a short sentence that helps me to set my mind on a different track. This sentence is bear hugs kettle — which reminds me that I have choices in my life. The sentence refers to bears that apparently when touching hot things, are not able to let go, but hang on to them harder, and the more they burn the more they hang on to what is destroying them until they lose their life. Now the simple sentence reminds me that it is my choice to act differently — and thus helps me to let go and think of something else.

For me these things really start to work. I realize that sifting through the cards changes the way I think about myself and with the mential diet pill and the bear hugs kettle I have to additional tools to help me stay on track — amazing what one can do, if he / she is willing to put in the work. I dont know about you — but I am really excited about this, and an looking forward to seeing myself succeed even more.